Jan 30, 2011

Perfect Just the Way I Am

Well, January is almost over, and my New Year's Resolutions have officially been broken! I started out the new year with grand ideas of what I was going to accomplish this year. They were the usual things--be better, thinner, more organized, and just a wee bit closer to perfect. It didn't take long for me to fall short of these ideals and feel like giving up.

I seriously struggle with perfection. If I can't doing something perfect, or at least better than most, I don't want to do it at all. This causes me a TON of frustration and feelings of inadequacy.

I was discussing this with my critique group, and my friend Nichole asked, "Who are you trying to impress?" I've thought a lot about that question since then. The answer I came up with is that I'm simply trying to feel good about myself. Several childhood experiences caused me to doubt my own worth and so I'm continually trying to prove that I'm worthwhile.

Like another friend told me, I've finally decided to just "Stop it!" I've been reading a lot about personal motivation, happiness, and change. I've discovered that I'm perfect and worthwhile just the way I am. Let me repeat that . . .

I'm perfect and worthwhile just the way I am.

And so are you!!

I think it's time that we all resolve to accept and love ourselves exactly where we are. Without all the improvements that we could doubtless make, without the pressure to be better. Without the voice of our mother, or father, or third grade teacher that we carry in our head. What a concept, to just be at peace with who and what we are right now.

Does this mean that we should remain stagnant or refuse to make changes that would benefit our lives? Not at all! It simply means loving yourself now! As President Gordon B. Hinckley said, "You are doing better than you think you are."

I've decided that 2011 is going to be the year of me. I'm bound and determined to learn to love myself this year. I'll let you know how it goes.

The day will come when the risk it takes to remain tight inside the bud is more painful than the risk it takes to bloom.


Nichole Giles said...

I'm SO glad you've made this choice, Kim. I already think you're amazing and fantastic. Good to know you're going to work on thinking that about yourself.

L.T. Elliot said...

You are perfect the way you are. You're better than perfect. Seriously, one of the nicest humans on the planet. I'm so glad you're going to love you because I love you.

Shari said...

I think you're beautiful just the way you are. And keeping up with ten children and a husband makes you more than perfect in my eyes. I can't even keep up with four.

But, I do understand how you feel. I'm trying to do the same thing, and probably have been my whole life.

I look forward to hearing how it goes this year!

Keith Fisher said...

Perfect and amazing. Glad to see you writing again.

Queen of Chaos said...

I struggle with the same things too. There's times I can be ok with me, and other times I really beat myself up. I feel like this year, is the ME year. I am going to work on ME.

I think it's great you are too! I really like what Pres. Hinckley said.

Thanks for sharig your personal thoughts. You're not alone.

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