Success means having the courage, the determination, and the will to become the person you were meant to be. ~George SheehanI LOVE the feeling of new beginnings--my birthday, a new school year, and best of all a brand new year! I've got a clean slate--a fresh new start, and another chance to commit to the health, love, and life I want for myself. Today (and everyday for that matter) I get to consciously design my destiny for 2012 exactly the way I want it to be.
As this year began, I felt hopeful. I had grand ideas about what I was going to accomplish. They were the usual things--be more spiritual, thinner, more organized, and just a wee bit closer to perfect. I read books about goal setting, made a list of things I'd like to achieve, and then . . . froze! I couldn't start any of them. You see, I have this disorder called PERFECTIONISM. If I can't do something perfect, I shy away from doing it at all. Now, I know this is stupid. I mean, honestly, if I can't eat perfectly or exercise every day of the week, 3, 4, or 5 out of 7 is better than nothing, right? Intellectually, I get that. But it's still something I struggle with every single day. It causes me a TON of frustration and feelings of inadequacy.
As a result, I've been reading a lot about personal motivation, happiness, and change; looking for something that will make a difference in my perspective. One author advocates telling yourself, "I'm perfect and worthwhile just the way I am." Let me repeat that . . .
I'm perfect and worthwhile just the way I am.
And so are you!!
I think it's time that we all resolve to accept and love ourselves exactly where we are. Without all the improvements that we could doubtless make, without the pressure to be better. Without the voice of our mother, or father, or third grade teacher that we carry in our head.
What a concept, to just be at peace with who and what we are right now. Does this mean that we should remain stagnant or refuse to make changes that would benefit our lives? Not at all! It simply means loving yourself now!
So that is my goal this year. I'm going to learn to love myself.
As far as dealing with the issue of perfection, I've decided rather than tackling everything at once, I'm going to make one small goal per month. I figure working on the same thing all month will allow the necessary time to cultivate some new healthy habits. I figure if I work on 12 new habits this year and if even half of them stick, I'll be closer to my ultimate goals of health and happiness.
How about you? What are your goals for this year, and what's your plan of attack?